The little girl came to her mother’s funeral to say goodbye to her there are numerous instances in life that necessitate the expression of empathy on our part in today’s episode we’re going to tell you about a tragic incident that occurred in the united kingdom only a few years ago a little girl missed classes and did not show up for school in order to attend
Her mother’s memorial service what the instructors and administrators did was extremely horrible and reprehensible and they should be fired it was at that point that the girl’s family was persuaded that they had done the right thing by not allowing little maddie to attend school on that particular day after all it was a pivotal but also tremendously tough time in her life at that point no one anticipated that the student
Would be penalized later for her absence says stevens of the incident the girl who was just nine years old at the time of the incident and lived in england with her mother gill even though her parents were separated her father andrew lived just a few blocks away with his new wife unfortunately that was the year in which maria’s life took a catastrophic turn for the worse it’s all because doctors discovered that her mother has breast
Cancer it turned out however that the sickness was fatal as a result the parents of little maria made steps to prepare their daughter for her mother’s impending death which occurred a short time later it was because the daughter began to spend more time at her father’s house that she did not feel any cognitive shock when the dreadful time came around a youngster was barred from participating in a school trip to
Commemorate 100 attendance because she had missed one day of school to attend her mother’s burial maddie stevens 11 was left befuddled and enraged after authorities at saint guiles junior high in bedworth refused to allow her to accompany her friends to frankie and benny’s restaurant on tuesday the sickness claimed the life of maddie’s mother gail in january of this year after a two-year fight with the
Disease it’s just so inconsiderate after everything she’s been through the bereaved youngster’s father andy a financial manager expressed his displeasure maddie has been absolutely incredible since her mother passed away we only allowed her to take one day off to attend the burial because we wanted to keep things as normal as possible for her but even if she had taken a week off
I would have said the same thing when gail passed away and at the funeral she was visibly distraught but she’s only trying to go on with her life and then she gets this kick in the shins after all of that her school should be congratulating her on her accomplishments not telling her that she’s unable to attend a school outing because her mother died besides it isn’t even about going to frankie and benny’s my wife and i have
Already stated that we will take her anywhere it’s about the idea it made me feel so sorry that i wasn’t able to attend because a handful of my friends were there maddie explained it would have been a great treat to have received it’s been difficult for me to assist my mother for the past two years the ex-wife of andy resided only a few streets away from andy’s and his wife deborah’s home on black horse road and exel and by christmas last year maddie
Was spending more time at her father’s house to become acclimated for her impending separation from andy we’re told in november that gail’s death would be a matter of months and that was the case we were praying against hope that it wouldn’t happen during the holidays and we did everything we could for maddie because gail’s birthday fell on boxing day she was permitted to leave mightin hospice for the occasion but she was in
Such bad shape that she could hardly get off the couch when she went back in after that that was the end of it she didn’t come out after that it was maddie’s very last christmas present from her adoring mother that she received the ice skating lessons she had always wanted having lost her mother maddie has committed her time to skating and she’s been accepted to the coventry blazes ice
Hockey academy maddie completed her final day of junior school on friday and she’ll now spend the summer preparing to enter secondary school in the fall of 2018. in the words of andy 48 it’s a major event when you graduate from junior school and move on to a new environment this is clearly a situation in which maddie’s mother would have been present to assist her instead she’s being punished for attending the burial of her
Mother she was visibly upset when she told me about it last night but i don’t believe she really wanted to talk about it as a result we’re doing everything we can to make sure she doesn’t suffer too much the fact that maddie’s condition was not taken into consideration by the school just makes me mad every time i think about it i become more and more enraged and i’m surprised they didn’t apologize to maddie it feels
Like they’re punishing us now for raising our voices against it following concerns highlighted the practice of awarding students for one hundred percent attendance has been discontinued a representative for st giles junior school told the telegraph here is just some of the reactions to the story online chris ramsbottom pampling st giles school bedworth how can a school named after a christian saint be so lacking in
Compassion who made the decision to exclude her shame on them tony mcdonald did the teachers who went on strike miss frankie and benny’s also as they didn’t have 100 attendance claire boyd i used to work in a school and any absence for a loss of close relative was recorded as such and did not affect their absence record as it wasn’t counted the same should be applied to schools of coventry janet grundy this is absolutely
Ludicrous i’m sorry but if you worked for a company then your mom’s funeral is classed as mitigating circumstances and you wouldn’t be penalized this is a child of 11. where is the justice in this i’m amazed at the insensitivity of the school kath brown absolutely disgraceful as if the poor girl hasn’t been through enough helen southwell this is disgusting the school should apologize unreservedly
Phil hyde so sad for maddie but i’m afraid compassion and common sense are becoming things of the past too many unfeeling jobs worths in the world patricia swindley disgusting when did we lose control over our kids lives what happens when kids are ill do they lose all rights to go on trips cheryl and bambrick that’s disgraceful no remorse for what that little girl has been through keep your head held high
Maddie keep strong and i hope your next journey into secondary school is more enjoyable and bright your mom will be proud of you gary may this is disgusting i hope the people at the school behind this decision are ashamed of themselves louise walker sickening if anybody deserves to go on the trip it’s her a child that young should never lose a parent they should be showing her support it’s as if she’s being
Disciplined for her mom’s passing janet hartley i feel extremely sorry for maddie but i feel heart sore for the soulless person who made the decision bias cook disgraceful surprised they didn’t find her family to add insult to injury somebody’s head needs to roll stephen mccarthy hunt so rather than lose face and give a kid a chance to enjoy the last day of term with the rest of his schoolmates they withdraw it for
Everyone when a loved one passes away children experience and express loss in a variety of ways the way children deal with loss is influenced by factors such as their age how close they were to the person who died and the assistance they receive parents can help a child who has lost a loved one by doing the following when discussing death use basic terms when you tell your child that someone
Has died be calm and loving make use of simple direct language i’m sorry to break the news to you grandma passed away today take a breather to allow your child to process what you’ve said pay attention and offer comfort when a youngster learns that a loved one has died they all react differently some children cry some people inquire others appear to be completely unresponsive that’s okay
Stay at your child’s side to give hugs and comfort respond to your child’s inquiries or simply spend time together it’s fine if your child sees you unhappy or crying put your emotions into words inquire of the children what they’re thinking and feeling make a list of some of your personal emotions this makes it more convenient for children to share theirs use phrases like i’m sure you’re in a bad mood i’m
Also sad we both adored grandma and she adored us as well make sure your child knows what to expect explain what will happen if your child’s life or routine may be disrupted due to the death of a loved one your child will feel more prepared as a result of this aunt sarah will pick you up from school as grandma used to for example alternatively for a few days i’ll be staying with grandpa that means that you
And dad will be caring for each other at home but i’ll keep in touch with you every day and i’ll return on sunday describe the events that will occur allow children to participate in traditional traditions such as viewings funerals and memorial ceremonies tell them what’s going to happen ahead of time as an example there’ll be a large number of people who adore grandma we’ll sing songs pray and discuss grandma’s life people may cry and hug
Each other i’m sorry for your loss they would say thank you or thanks for coming are options if you like you can stay close to me and grasp my hand it’s possible that you’ll need to explain the difference between burial and cremation as an example following the funeral the deceased is buried in a cemetery the body of the deceased is placed in a casket or coffin and is buried with a particular ceremony this may feel like a painful farewell and
Some people may cry share your family’s perspectives on what happens to a person’s soul or spirit after they die also describe what will happen following the service as an example we’ll go out to lunch together people will continue to laugh talk and hug people begin to feel better after talking about wonderful memories with grandma and spending time together assign a role to your child having a
Tiny active role allows children to feel involved and helps them cope you may ask your youngster to read a poem choose a music to play collect images to exhibit or create something allow children to choose whether or not they want to participate and how they want to participate let them know that it takes time to recover from the loss of a loved one don’t be afraid to bring up the subject
Of the individual who died sharing joyful recollections can aid in the healing process grief is a process that takes time to complete a youngster may require therapy to help them heal if a loved one’s death was unexpected unpleasant or violent consult your child’s doctor if distress lasts more than a few weeks or if you believe your family needs additional assistance